Prince Philiphad a unique yet rocky bond withPrincess Diana.
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“When (Diana) found the restrictions of royal life difficult, it was Philip who helped her,” writes royal author Ingrid Seward in her new bookPrince PhilipRevealed, excerpted in the first issue ofPEOPLERoyals. “Once she was married, she never sat next to her husband; she was always sat next to Philip at the endless black-tie dinners, and he took care of her.
“Diana found the Balmoral dinners a massive strain and the atmosphere stifling,” Seward continues. “When the piper came around the table after dinner with his kilt swirling and his pipes whining, she couldn’t wait to leave the room.”
Princess Diana and Prince Philip.Eric BOUVET/Gamma-Rapho via Getty
This bond continued after the publication of Andrew Morton’s tell-all 1992 bookDiana: Her True Story, which revealed the full extent of Diana’s struggles during the collapse of her marriage toPrince Charles(nowKing Charles III, after the September 2022 death of Queen Elizabeth II).
After the book’s publication,the Queenand Philip arranged a family meeting with Charles and Diana in their private sitting room at Windsor Castle — a moment captured in season 4 of the hit Netflix drama,The Crown.
During the conversation, Philip asked Charles and Diana to “try to think of their children, the monarchy and the country instead of their personal woes,” says Seward.
Away from view, the Duke of Edinburgh also privately adopted a much gentler approach and started writing letters to Diana in the hope that he could subtly influence her.
Prince Philip at the 1981 royal wedding of Charles and Diana.
“He tried to make her face facts and deal with the problems within her marriage, explaining he knew first-hand thedifficulties of marrying into the royal family,” says Seward.
Philip signed the letters “Pa,” and initially sympathized with Diana’s plight, even going so far as to say that Charles “was silly to risk everything with Camilla.”
“We never dreamed that he might feel like leaving you for her. I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind leaving you for Camilla,” he added in one of the notes. “Such a prospect never entered our heads.”
In another letter, Philip offered to do everything he could to save their marriage.
“If invited, I will always do my utmost to help you and Charles to the best of my ability. But I am quite ready to concede that I have no talent as a marriage counselor,” he wrote.
Prince Philip and Princess Diana on the Buckingham Palace balcony.Terry Fincher/Princess Diana Archive/Getty
Sadly, the letters failed to heal the enormousrift in Diana’s marriage. Over time the bond between the two royal outsiders also crumbled as steadily as Diana’s relationship withPrince Charles— partly because Philip told the princess she was wrong to have herextra-marital affairs.
“(Philip) realized that Diana’s behavior was having a detrimental effect on the institute of the monarchy,” Seward adds inPrince PhilipRevealed.
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Diana, meanwhile, “came to dislikePrince Philipas she found him impossible to deal with,” Seward continues. “He might be entertaining as a dinner guest” (Diana) explained, “but as a father-in-law he was too judgmental.”
Despite this, Diana did at least appreciate the motive behind Philip’s letters as her marriage floundered in 1992. Eleven of the “outsiders” notes were revealed during the 2007/2008 inquest into thetragic deathsof Diana and Dodi Fayed in August 1997.
Philip, Diana and Charles on the Buckingham Palace balcony.
Another said, “I was so pleased to receive your letter, and particularly so to read that you are desperately anxious to help.”
Diana also said that she appreciated her father-in-law’s “great understanding and tact” — not qualities Philip was exactly famous for during his near-century-long life. Tellingly, the princess signed off all her letters to the Duke with endearments such as “with my fondest love.”
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Her friend, alternative therapist Simone Simmons, told the 2007/2008 inquiry that Diana showed her “two letters that really upset her.” Lawyer Michael Mansfield then asked Simmons if the letters were “extremely derogatory” about Diana? “Yes and very cruel as well,” Simmons replied, adding that they left Diana “red in the face.”
source: people.com
