Jill Duggar Dillardhas the key to marital bliss!
The 28-year-oldCounting Onstar, who has been married to husbandDerick Dillardsince 2014, opened up about her sex life in arecent blog poston the Dillard Family website, in the hopes of encouraging couples not to let the “fire in your marriage” die.
Jill writes that it’s imperative to have sex often, writing, “you both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start).”
“When you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate,” Jill explains.
She adds, “Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone. Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting!”
Jill also suggests getting “new lingerie (online is an easy way to buy!) as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever.”
TheCounting Onstar even advises couples to seek help “if you’re struggling with sex with your spouse.”
“See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions,” she adds.
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Jill explains her reason for speaking out on the matter is because she got “so tired of people saying when we were just getting to know each other, and then as newlyweds too, was stuff like, ‘Oh you just wait’… or… ‘You’re just in that newlywed phase.'”
However, the TLC star does admit that a fading intimacy is common, writing, “I do realize that sometimes things may change slightly due to life changes (e.g. kids, work schedules, etc.), one thing I think we need to recognize is that the fire in your marriage doesn’t have to die out! But like a fire, sometimes, and more so during some seasons than others, you need to be intentional, proactive and work hard to keep the fire going.”
“I don’t claim to know everything about marriage, or to be presenting some solve-all advice, and I’m only really speaking to wives here, but I hope you find some of these tips to be encouraging,” Jill admits.
In addition to her bedroom tips, Jill encourages couples to be “open about everything: past, present and future.”
Jill writes, “You need to be able to trust each other with the easy and the hard! Secrets are seeds for destruction.”
She also says to “pray and fast for your husband,” encourage him and speak up when “they hurt you… or else the problem will just linger and you may suffer unnecessarily and resentment might build up.”
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Jill and Derick, 30, share two children — sonsIsrael David, 4, andSamuel Scott, 1.
Practicing what she preaches, Jillraved over Derick earlier this monthafter he completed his first year of law school.
In honor of his achievement, Jill threw her husband a pizza party.
In addition to sharing photos of the pizza she made using a recipe shefeatures on her website, the mother of two wrote on Instagram, “Whoop whoop! 🎉 This guy just finished his first year of law school today!! 🙌🏻🤗😁 Pizza party to celebrate. ❤️🍕”
source: people.com
